Since my friend, Layla, is having a word of the year party (scheduled for early Monday a.m.), I thought that would be fun to join. I am not one to often make New Year’s resolutions. Those seem to be lists doomed to fail for the most part, so why set yourself up for that? But, as I approach my 5 year blogging anniversary the first of February, this is a good time to stop and count my blessings.
Choosing a word for the year seems to be a good way to start the new year off on a positive note. A sweet word can stick in your head and heart and help guide the way through the days and months that lay ahead in the coming year. So, why not a word? I pondered and thought and read some devotions, bouncing a few words around that I thought I could embrace.
And I came back to one that continues to grip me.
HOPE.
At four letters, a little word, but a powerful word.
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What do I put my hope in? Who do I put my hope in?
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Oh, that has certainly varied over the years. As little girls, most of us hope for a Prince Charming to come along and sweep us off our feet. A wonderful knight in shining armor that we can fall in love with and one who will complete our lives, bring us happiness and with whom we will live happily ever after. Magical words. You know, just like the fairy tales we grew up reading? Oh yes, I had those hopes and dreams too, as a little girl blossoming into a young woman. I looked for my Prince. Found a few hopefuls and had my heart broken along the way. Married this one and that one. But, unfortunately, my Princes didn’t complete me, in fact made my life worse instead of better in so many ways. I’m sure I was not the Princess they had hoped for either.
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Those dreamy young-girl hopes were dashed. Reality was not as I had hoped for in my dreams and life did not turn out as I had imagined.
What do you do when your hopes and dreams don’t come true?
It would have been so easy for me to give up with what happened in my life the last year. To crawl under the covers and go into a deep depression. Hide from the world. I could have easily stopped blogging. How in the world do you talk about the ugly side of life on a happy home blog? Grief, loss, and failure was a big part of all of that.
One year ago, I was sitting in a big house, alone, facing the realization that my life was about to change in huge ways that I couldn’t even imagine. The man I was married to had just run away from facing some big responsibilities, instead choosing to leave me with the aftermath of his horrible choices, all of which created a domino effect. A house that I had lovingly made a home for the past 5 years was going into foreclosure and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. I was also sifting through lies and truth, trying to get to the bottom of what I was really facing. I still don’t know the 100% complete truth, but I knew plenty enough then to know I had to get out of that situation as quickly as I could. Edited: My ex-husband ended up serving jail time in AL, facing some serious financial fraud charges. Life can certainly turn ugly sometimes.
Feeling pretty hopeless at the time, it seemed that my life was crumbling to pieces. I ran home to the safety of my parents, which is the best thing I could have done.
Oh, that the Lord has brought me this far!
And now, for me, my reality has taken me down the path of gratitude. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, for the disappointments in life that have come my way, instead of wallowing in self-pity, I choose to keep hope at the forefront of my mind.
Not hope in a new man. Nope, not that, not yet anyway. One thing I have discovered in my personal journey is this: No one person on this earth can make you happy and complete. You have to find that in and for yourself and the only one in whom we can find wholeness and healing and true joy, is the one who created us.
Jesus Christ, he is my hope. He is the man that I count on and rely on. I know his promises will always be yes for me, promises for a brighter future, a good tomorrow. And that gives me more peace and contentment than money could ever buy. Not an easy life with no problems, but I know that He is always there to walk with me no matter how rocky the road. And boy, was last year rocky.
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In spite of lost houses, failed marriages, and money woes, I’m hopeful for a future that will be better than anything I’ve experienced thus far. Finding a little fixer-upper house will be one of those things in my future that I’ll be looking forward to the most. I will be so excited when that happens and will wait for the right one, which gives me hope that I can find something affordable. I just know it’s out there waiting for me!
I have no idea if God will bring love into my life again. If He does, then I’ll know it and be ready for it, but it’s not going to be something that drives me. Besides, anyone that comes into my life will have to run the gauntlet of family and friends. They’ve got my back. A complete background check wouldn’t hurt either. 🙂
I can be content single, enjoying my friends, both single and married and loving life. I have a joy and a purpose and blogging is a big part of that. God has blessed me so much this past year in bringing me through the torrential rain, into a place of safety and peace. And gratitude. And joy.
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Jeremiah 29:11 says it so well and is one of my favorite verses of the Lord’s love for Israel. I can hold this promise in my heart as well.
This year, I will have hope in:
- First and foremost, Jesus as the Lover of my Soul.
- My family, who love me unconditionally
- My friends, who support and love me through it all
- My purpose and work, from sharing this blog with all of you to experiencing so many new and exciting things that I know are going to come along this year, including a brand new blogging conference, Haven, that I’m privileged to head up here in Atlanta.
- New opportunities and open doors that I can’t open myself, but only God can do. I gladly trust Him to do that.
- Enjoying life one day at a time and really reveling in the journey. Living life like never before.
And my hope is this, that these words will speak to someone out there who is losing hope, wondering if there is an answer for you. Does God really care about you and your situation? I hope my life and experiences will speak to you and let you know that yes, there is hope, always. When we trust in the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, He will never let us down. His plans are so much higher than anything we could ever dream of.
We all face trials and difficulties in life and what and who we put our HOPE in will determine the outcome.
I know I’m not the only one who has gone through divorces and disappointments. It happens all the time to so many women. No one ever goes into a marriage with intentions of failing and you can come out of divorce feeling like a great big Loser, with an L on your forehead. For those of you who have experienced hard marriages, I feel for you. I know exactly how it feels to live in disappointment, deception, emotional pain, and loss.
If you found your Prince Charming as a young woman, had his babies, and are now living happily ever after, you are blessed indeed. Be thankful every day for that! It didn’t happen that way for all of us. That was my dream too, to meet my Prince Charming, have a couple of kids, and to live happily ever after following God’s perfect plan.
One thing for sure, I cannot give up. YOU cannot give up! We must keep going and know that there is a reason for it all. Hard times make us stronger. I’m definitely stronger than I’ve ever been, but my strength is not in myself, it is in my Lord. Not on what I can do, but on what He can do. When I am weak, He is strong. It feels so good to lean on Him and not try to fix it all myself, as I so have a tendency to do.
And one thing I know. Nothing is impossible with Him!
Nothing, do you hear me?
Hope.
A small word, with a heaping helping of meaning. Hope endures. Hope believes when we can’t see.
Do you have a word you are clinging to this year? Please leave a comment if you do, I’d love to hear it.
Gail Kramer says
An absolutely beautiful and honest post! Thank you for sharing it with us!
I love the word hope and it’s the one word I always tell me teenagers; that there is always, always, hope and that this too shall pass!
Thank you!
Gail
My word? Joy!
Kelly Feltzer says
Thank You so much for your candidness, and openess. It is so refreshing to hear honesty. I’m so glad I stumbled upon your blog. I wish you the best!
Kelly F.
mary says
Blessings to you. When I read about your parents, I think of mine, who are now gone. I know they would have helped me the way yours have been there for you. I’m praying you have an extra good year in 2012!
Lea says
For me the word is grateful. Grateful that I sit here today, a stronger, confident, happy woman, grateful that I was not destroyed by the one person I trusted for 26 years of my life.
Grateful that I serve a awsome God, who loved me through the darkness, who loved me enough to bring me out of where I was living, and back to his loving arms.
Grateful for my family, and friends, my church family.
God has the most beautiful plan ahead for you Rhoda, and I look forward to following you along the way, to see his plan revealed.
WhisperWood Cottage says
Hope is one powerful and meaningful word. I “hope” that 2012 is filled with hope for you, Rhoda! 🙂 My word for the year is…”possible.”
Jane @ Cottage at the Crossroads says
Rhoda,
This was a beautifully written, heart-felt post. “Hope” is the perfect word for you this year. It reminds me of the Latin motto of South Carolina. “Dum Spiro Spero” which means “While I breathe, I hope.” I’ve chosen the word “Grow” for myself.
Allyson says
I think a story about picking yourself up and being bigger than what is happening to you is even better than a “happily ever after.” Thank you so much for sharing this post and for continuing to inspire us!
Allyson
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Paula B. says
I agree with you, Allyson!
Judy says
I too have chosen hope as my word for 2012. In order to keep going one must have hope that it will work out the way it should be.
LIZ says
You are the best Rhoda!! Thinking of you and sending love your way!
Dorothy says
Thank you Rhoda for your lovely post full of hope! I appreciate your honesty and encouragement and know others will too!
diana says
every word you speak is so true for all of us. Thank you for this post.
Karen says
Hi Rhoda, I just love your post about Hope. I went over to another favorit blog of mine A Fine Farmhouse and she was sharing hope too from a quote of Jane Austen from Sense and Sensibility. My word is FAITH.
Truly magical and inpirational.
Thank you!
Rachel @ Grasping for Objectivity says
Thank you, thank you, thank you for a beautiful post!! You are an amazing woman and certainly an inspiration!! I miss seeing you regularly so much. Thank you for your honesty in the blogging world – it certainly needs it!!
Debra@CommonGround says
Such a great post, Rhoda. God truly is our Hope, wouldn’t want to be walking this earth without Him! My word for the year is “Step” as in take one, and step out in faith. Thanks for always being so open and inspiring!
A student says
Thank for sharing the real reason for hope!
Joyce says
Rhoda, you are a special special person and an encouragement to so many. Thank-you for sharing your journey. I wish you blessings too great for you to hold!!
Debbie says
Rhoda, I read your Blog daily and feel as if I know you and your family and love keeping up with you and all your adventures. Thanks for sharing in your last post. Just know you are an inspiration and Iove that you did not let your experience become who you are. I did not have a word for 2012 but always a scripture and now I have a word, I love HOPE. Thank you again for passing it on. Bless you my friend.
Becky says
Rhoda,
Thanks so much for this post. You continue to inspire me. I have followed your blog now for over a year and just love your positive attitude. I know you have had a difficult time this last year, but I do have hope that you will weather the storm. Please remember that you are touching so many lives in such a positive way. Bless you!
Becky
Carol says
Rhoda,
This may be my favorite post of yours, ever! Hope is truly a gift from God. Everything we see around us is temporary. But He and His Hope is eternal. Hallelujah!
Your post is filled with hope, joy and conviction. You are an inspiration in many ways, but in your testimony is your greatest blessing to others.
Thank you for living your life by our wonderful Lord and Saviour living in you!
Heidi @ Decor & More says
Ah, my friend ~ you are such an inspiration! I, too, have travelled the road of divorce, failure, grief, along with single motherhood and financial distress. HOPE is the BEST place for you to camp out… no doubt about it. I find myself now in a place of busy happiness, thanks be to God. This year my word is BALANCE. I’m still raising children and step-children and I must find my balance. And I’m starting with Him.
Peace, xo Heidi
Kristi @ Addicted 2 Decorating says
What a beautiful post! Praise God that He is there for us in our darkest hour. I don’t know that I would have survived last year without Him. My word–Determination. I’m tired of sitting by and allowing life to happen to me. This year, I’m taking the bull by the horns and making things happen. Here’s to a fantastic 2012!
Pat says
Amen. That is one beautifully written post. Hope is a great word and a great thing, indeed! Many blessings to you in 2012.