Moving back in with your parents when you’re my age is rather daunting, but really there is nowhere I’d rather be at the moment. They are my strong support, still after all these years and now I may have the privilege of looking after them in their older years and that is fine with me.On the Thursday before our Friday move, I met up with friends, girls I’ve connected with in Birmingham and we met at my favorite Italian restaurant, Joe’s in Alabaster. I’ve blogged about it before and it is a wonderful place to enjoy a good meal. These ladies have all been so supportive to me over the past few months and I couldn’t have made it without them.With a few pictures to seal the memory, we threw in one of melodramatic efforts just for some laughs. A couple more joined us for one last pic. My sweet friend, Janice (in the blue top), got a beautiful picture frame and had everyone sign the mat, which will then be framed with the shot above, so I can remember these girls forever. I have made some wonderful friends in Birmingham and will miss them all dearly, but I do hope to get back for a visit again. I had the nightly special, a superb chicken and pasta dish. It was magnifico! Doesn’t this look yummy too?And to finish off the meal, I had to get a large slab of Joe’s famous strawberry cake, which is enough for about 4 or 5 people easily. We were stuffed and happy. The next day, bright and early, my family showed up ready to help with the move. We had lots of help from church staff, who brought over plenty of guys to help. We could not have done it without them and I’m immensely grateful for all of them who came out. They moved everything out of the house and down on the driveway, where my brother-in-law, Bruce, packed the 26′ truck like a jigsaw puzzle. I was very worried that we wouldn’t get it all in that truck. That worry was well founded and after lunch we had to go get another 14′ truck. 🙁
Here’s a tip for you: Don’t ever move! You will realize just how much “stuff” you really have. This was after I had 2 moving sales too! My friend from church, Sharon, was so much help. She has back issues so couldn’t move much, but she showed up early to help me get the big truck back to the house and that was a huge help. She later went back with me to get the 2nd truck. Thank goodness we got everything on the 2nd truck, except my house plants and Sharon is taking care of those until I can get back over to Birmingham to get them.We took a lunch break and then the real work began.Saying farewell to the empty house. I will miss it, but it is time to move on. No, the rug didn’t stay, it came with me. The 2nd truck got packed to the gills and we were finally ready to pull out for Atlanta, late in the afternoon. It was an all-day tiring job. My brother-in-law drove one truck and my dad drove the other one. And we had 2 cars too. We headed out around 5:00 Central time and made it home after dark. An exhausting day it was, but I’m glad it is finally over. My sweet dad had a metal storage building built in their backyard to hold all my stuff. I can’t say enough about my wonderful parents. It makes me cry to think about them and how good they are to me.
With bittersweet memories, I’ve moved out of the house we have lived in for 5 years and I am back to the room I lived in when I was 16 and my family first moved in this house. It’s not a fancy house at all, nothing like the Birmingham house, but it will be my new home and home is where those that you love are living.
Yes, I will miss the Birmingham house and the joy of making it a home, but when life changes drastically, we must make other arrangements. This is not something that was planned, but sometimes you don’t plan for life, it just happens when you least expect it. I know all of this didn’t take God by surprise, so I’m leaning on that promise and not my own understanding.
I still cannot share all the details, maybe one day I can, but I will say this:
I need to live with my parents because I have been taken advantage of financially, devastated to a large degree by the man I thought I could trust. It’s been a 3 month journey of dealing with where I thought life was going, finding out the truth, and knowing that I will survive this in spite of the pain of the reality that I now must live in.
That is only part of the story, but the rest will have to wait.
It is not the end of the world. I will survive. I will be OK. That I know.
So, I will move forward and I still hope that all of you will go with me on my new journey. Most likely, I will be getting a full time job again. That is nothing new for me. I have worked most of my life and can do it again.
I will confess that the last few months, I’ve felt that blogland has been passing me by. When you’re dealing with real life issues, decorating and projects definitely take a backseat. Nothing else is important but surviving. I won’t be in that pretty house anymore, doing projects and coming up with creative ideas there. I’ve seen all the wonderful creativity out there in the blogosphere and felt a little sad that I am not a part of it right now, but I know that one day I will have a house again.
The bottom line is this: I plan to keep on blogging, yes I do! I can’t imagine not blogging now, it is truly a part of my life that I still enjoy so much. It will just be different than what you’ve seen from me in the last 4 years. I’ll be sharing friend’s projects and hopefully some creativity along the way. And plenty of decorating ideas!
I might even talk my mom into letting me do some updates in their 1973 house. It’s time! Time to get rid of some mauve carpet in the bathroom I’ll be using AND strip off some dated wallpaper.
So, you might get to see a few projects outta me after all. And I’ll be looking for lots of other decor stuff to highlight for you too.
Thank you ALL so much for your prayers and support these last 3 months. It has truly wrapped me up in love like a warm coat and I so much appreciate you all.
It will be a new journey and where it leads, I have no idea. Finding a new normal will be at the forefront. I know it will be sweet. Very sweet. God sometimes allows trials and pain in our lives to draw us closer to Him.
Thanks again to all of you for your very sweet support behind the scenes of my life. It has meant the world to me.
I would very much love to meet up with many of you bloggers/readers in the Atlanta area for a lunch date sometime soon, so keep that in mind. Le Madeleine is one of my favorite spots, so that just might be a good place to meet. Hopefully, one Saturday coming up will work, so I will set a date and let you all know.
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You’ve handled an impossible situation with such grace, dignity, and determination. I’m proud of you and honored to call you friend!
First I want to tell you that I am so sorry that you are having a hard time right now. To be betrayed on an emotional level is one of the hardest things to go through but then to have your financial independence be taken from you…there are no words. I know that you will survive this and will prosper.
Yours was the first blog I ever read. I have followed you silently (yep, I’m a stalker, um lurker) for years. Your posts on DIY projects that helped pull me out of the debilitating depression I was going through as few years ago.
I have no doubt that you will be a whirlwind of activity at your mom’s. It will be fun to watch. It would be great to meet in Atlanta and go thrifting. I understand there are some great places there!
Be well and happy!
Erin @ Dwell & Tell says
Birmingham will miss you! I’m upset with myself for not meeting you in person!
sherry hart says
Rhoda……I am sure all of your blogging friends will be with you no matter where you hang your hat or what you blog about! I am sorry to read that someone betrayed you…I have been there my friend. Of course I can only imagine the happiness you are bringing your parents to have their daughter come home.
No details needed. You’re private life is just that. I’d love to hear more about your adventures to come with your Mom & Dad. I so enjoyed the home-cooked meals & family time you shared during your time together in North Carolina. Best of luck to you in Atlanta!
I, too, started life over again in my early 50s (that was 8 years ago). I was financially devastated, hurt and confused but, and I can tell you this – you will survive – with God’s help and the support of the many friends you have. May God bless you as you travel this journey.
Funky Junk Interiors says
Your post made me want to cry. 🙂
You are amazing and a total inspiration. I can’t thank you enough for having the courage to share what you have with us.
You’ll be in our prayers.
Kathy :) says
Oh Rhoda………..I hve tears in my eyes from reading this. As you know I hve been taking care of my Mother so I am in and out of the blogging world. But it’s people like you that keeps me coming back, funny how we connect to certain people.
I want to wish you and your family a Happy Easter…..God Bless you all….
I so believe in “what goes around comes around” and you my dear have such a strong faith and such a wonderful family you will be just fine…..
If ever I can do ANYTHING for you just holla !!!!!
All the best dear friend,
xo Kathy 🙂
Wow. I am amazed at what God is doing in your life. When we briefly met at Blissdom I had no idea, of course, you were going through so many life changes. I wish we could have talked more and now I really wish I had given you A BIG HUG. I will be looking forward to seeing you through this transition to a new phase in your life. It will all be worth it and your attitude is inspiring. Love to you! Lisa~
Sue Ryan says
Rhonda you are a truly inspirational godly woman! I admire how you have dealt with your situation with such dignity and grace and have rested in God’s hands through this trial. He is faithful and and I know that His plans for you are for good, to give you a future and a hope (Jer. 29:11).Thank you for sharing your beautiful transformations with us all.
Hello, Rhoda~I’ve just found your blog again, looking for beautiful traditional home decorating inspiration, for our daughter, to find tips and ideas. Like you, she is a creative one with artistic genes, and ‘hands on’ ready to further refine her home:) Your situation surely has taken me by surprise, as well as moved me to tears. . . like you, I belong to Jesus, and KNOW He will continue to hold you in the palm of His hand, providing mercy, goodness, and blessing to you (and me) each new day. My husband and I have also experienced a life situation we never would have chosen, but know God will provide and continue to be faithful. Thank you so much for sharing your talents, and especially your authentic self here in blog land. I keep smiling as I think of this special time you have with your parents~how thrilled they must be for your presence with them. I wish I could hug you, but this note will have to do~the Lord BLESS you and KEEP you, the Lord make his face to SHINE upon you, and give you peace. . . in Christ~love you, Susan
Sometimes when we are in the middle of the shock and dealing with the pain and then the changes in life, we don’t see that God has already put in motion the changes he wants for you. We have all learned to love you and believe in you, now being with you as you share your pain with us, you are also teaching us the way to go as in God’s will. I don’t believe very many of us have missed out on LIFE and it’s incredible pain, changes, and lifetime growth, but not all of us can reach out to the masses as you are chosen to do. I, for one, am planning on following/joining in with you on your journey, whether it is the up times or the down times, I am on my knees with you!
HI, Missy, I hope that you saw that this post is almost 4 years old. I have definitely survived and am thriving now. Thank you for stopping by! God has truly taken me through the pain to a wonderful place in life. I couldn’t be happier or more content.