Since my friend, Layla, is having a word of the year party (scheduled for early Monday a.m.), I thought that would be fun to join. I am not one to often make New Year’s resolutions. Those seem to be lists doomed to fail for the most part, so why set yourself up for that? But, as I approach my 5 year blogging anniversary the first of February, this is a good time to stop and count my blessings.
Choosing a word for the year seems to be a good way to start the new year off on a positive note. A sweet word can stick in your head and heart and help guide the way through the days and months that lay ahead in the coming year. So, why not a word? I pondered and thought and read some devotions, bouncing a few words around that I thought I could embrace.
And I came back to one that continues to grip me.
At four letters, a little word, but a powerful word.
What do I put my hope in? Who do I put my hope in?
Oh, that has certainly varied over the years. As little girls, most of us hope for a Prince Charming to come along and sweep us off our feet. A wonderful knight in shining armor that we can fall in love with and one who will complete our lives, bring us happiness and with whom we will live happily ever after. Magical words. You know, just like the fairy tales we grew up reading? Oh yes, I had those hopes and dreams too, as a little girl blossoming into a young woman. I looked for my Prince. Found a few hopefuls and had my heart broken along the way. Married this one and that one. But, unfortunately, my Princes didn’t complete me, in fact made my life worse instead of better in so many ways. I’m sure I was not the Princess they had hoped for either.
Those dreamy young-girl hopes were dashed. Reality was not as I had hoped for in my dreams and life did not turn out as I had imagined.
What do you do when your hopes and dreams don’t come true?
It would have been so easy for me to give up with what happened in my life the last year. To crawl under the covers and go into a deep depression. Hide from the world. I could have easily stopped blogging. How in the world do you talk about the ugly side of life on a happy home blog? Grief, loss, and failure was a big part of all of that.
One year ago, I was sitting in a big house, alone, facing the realization that my life was about to change in huge ways that I couldn’t even imagine. The man I was married to had just run away from facing some big responsibilities, instead choosing to leave me with the aftermath of his horrible choices, all of which created a domino effect. A house that I had lovingly made a home for the past 5 years was going into foreclosure and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. I was also sifting through lies and truth, trying to get to the bottom of what I was really facing. I still don’t know the 100% complete truth, but I knew plenty enough then to know I had to get out of that situation as quickly as I could. Edited: My ex-husband ended up serving jail time in AL, facing some serious financial fraud charges. Life can certainly turn ugly sometimes.
Feeling pretty hopeless at the time, it seemed that my life was crumbling to pieces. I ran home to the safety of my parents, which is the best thing I could have done.
Oh, that the Lord has brought me this far!
And now, for me, my reality has taken me down the path of gratitude. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, for the disappointments in life that have come my way, instead of wallowing in self-pity, I choose to keep hope at the forefront of my mind.
Not hope in a new man. Nope, not that, not yet anyway. One thing I have discovered in my personal journey is this: No one person on this earth can make you happy and complete. You have to find that in and for yourself and the only one in whom we can find wholeness and healing and true joy, is the one who created us.
Jesus Christ, he is my hope. He is the man that I count on and rely on. I know his promises will always be yes for me, promises for a brighter future, a good tomorrow. And that gives me more peace and contentment than money could ever buy. Not an easy life with no problems, but I know that He is always there to walk with me no matter how rocky the road. And boy, was last year rocky.
In spite of lost houses, failed marriages, and money woes, I’m hopeful for a future that will be better than anything I’ve experienced thus far. Finding a little fixer-upper house will be one of those things in my future that I’ll be looking forward to the most. I will be so excited when that happens and will wait for the right one, which gives me hope that I can find something affordable. I just know it’s out there waiting for me!
I have no idea if God will bring love into my life again. If He does, then I’ll know it and be ready for it, but it’s not going to be something that drives me. Besides, anyone that comes into my life will have to run the gauntlet of family and friends. They’ve got my back. A complete background check wouldn’t hurt either. 🙂
I can be content single, enjoying my friends, both single and married and loving life. I have a joy and a purpose and blogging is a big part of that. God has blessed me so much this past year in bringing me through the torrential rain, into a place of safety and peace. And gratitude. And joy.
Jeremiah 29:11 says it so well and is one of my favorite verses of the Lord’s love for Israel. I can hold this promise in my heart as well.
This year, I will have hope in:
- First and foremost, Jesus as the Lover of my Soul.
- My family, who love me unconditionally
- My friends, who support and love me through it all
- My purpose and work, from sharing this blog with all of you to experiencing so many new and exciting things that I know are going to come along this year, including a brand new blogging conference, Haven, that I’m privileged to head up here in Atlanta.
- New opportunities and open doors that I can’t open myself, but only God can do. I gladly trust Him to do that.
- Enjoying life one day at a time and really reveling in the journey. Living life like never before.
And my hope is this, that these words will speak to someone out there who is losing hope, wondering if there is an answer for you. Does God really care about you and your situation? I hope my life and experiences will speak to you and let you know that yes, there is hope, always. When we trust in the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, He will never let us down. His plans are so much higher than anything we could ever dream of.
We all face trials and difficulties in life and what and who we put our HOPE in will determine the outcome.
I know I’m not the only one who has gone through divorces and disappointments. It happens all the time to so many women. No one ever goes into a marriage with intentions of failing and you can come out of divorce feeling like a great big Loser, with an L on your forehead. For those of you who have experienced hard marriages, I feel for you. I know exactly how it feels to live in disappointment, deception, emotional pain, and loss.
If you found your Prince Charming as a young woman, had his babies, and are now living happily ever after, you are blessed indeed. Be thankful every day for that! It didn’t happen that way for all of us. That was my dream too, to meet my Prince Charming, have a couple of kids, and to live happily ever after following God’s perfect plan.
One thing for sure, I cannot give up. YOU cannot give up! We must keep going and know that there is a reason for it all. Hard times make us stronger. I’m definitely stronger than I’ve ever been, but my strength is not in myself, it is in my Lord. Not on what I can do, but on what He can do. When I am weak, He is strong. It feels so good to lean on Him and not try to fix it all myself, as I so have a tendency to do.
And one thing I know. Nothing is impossible with Him!
Nothing, do you hear me?
A small word, with a heaping helping of meaning. Hope endures. Hope believes when we can’t see.
Do you have a word you are clinging to this year? Please leave a comment if you do, I’d love to hear it.
I came over here from the Lettered Cottage’s word of the year linky party because I was struck with your word-HOPE. I was trying to decide on my word and was thinking faith or hope and then when I came over here I knew it would be hope. We have had terrible financial troubles due to my husband being out of work for 2 1/2 years and when we hit a crisis in which the next step coming would be foreclosure I asked the Lord”Is this what you have for us ?”and I pleaded with Him to give me a verse and He gave me Jeremiah 29:11 and the crisis passed and we still have our home. Everything is still very tight and touch and go financially,but I have HOPE that things will turn out for the best. I’ve never been good at making friends and always end up crying when I read posts on these blogs about women friends and have been praying about that as well and then Nester started having a series on friendships and I found out that I’m just an introvert and that there are ways to still make friends and once again I have HOPE. So for the year ahead instead of getting swept up in discouragement and Satan’s lies I will have HOPE-hope in my Lord who will never leave me nor forsake me-HOPE in His goodness and mercy which is new everyday. Thank you for your beautiful post and putting your hope in the Lord Jesus Christ. I will be doing the same.
Your words touch my heart very deeply. My word for this year is Hope, too. I shared it on my blog recently. You and I shared some of the same words and Scriptures. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Hold onto the hope that is only found in God.
Don’t know if you have found a house yet. I stumbled across this one, which might suit you well. Sylva, NC, 116 Mockingbird Lane, for $32,500!
Oh Rhoda this post was SO encouraging for me! I know all of what you are saying but it sure is nice to hear it again when you need encouraging! I have a lot going on in my life as well but I know that God will see me through it all as well. He’s just so awesome like that! There is a song I used to sing in church all the time and when I first heard it I just cried and cried. It was soooo encouraging! I started singing it in church and lots of folks loved it as much as I did even though I didn’t sing all that well. Awhile back I heard the song on the radio and I hadn’t heard it in a longggggg time. I KNEW in my heart God allowed that song to be played at that very time to encourage me and to let me know everything was going to be alright. Anyway I don’t know if you have ever heard the song or not but it’s a Southern Gospel song, and the McKameys sing it, God on the Mountain. He’s still God when things are going wrong and He’s STILL God when they’re going good as well.
I to try to tend to things myself and have to stop all the time and say no, this is Gods! Let HIM handle it. I know you’re going to do just fine because God is going to help you just like He helps us all when we ask and depend on Him! 🙂
I have started reading your blog lately and was wondering if Lauren is your daughter. I find your story inspirational.
Hi, Betty, thanks for stopping by. Lauren is my niece!
Lori @ http://jasminebrook.blogspot.com/ says
FAITH…that is my word!