Pinch me, just go ahead and pinch me now! 
I hardly know where to begin with this big announcement, but I’ll just start off by telling all of you that I’m thrilled (just thrilled) to be part of a HUGE project with BlogHer and Macy’s and today is the kickoff. This project will continue through July, so you’ll be hearing from me, as well as everyone else, on several different topics throughout the event.
I, along with 7 other bloggers will be kicking off this campaign with the first topic, which is all about what to wear for those special occasions that arise, as well as how we dress at home. So, get ready for a fun time of brainstorming on this blog, as well as all the other blogs that will be participating in this fun event.
And, wait til I tell you the part that almost had me peeing my pants! (and that’s not hard to do these days)
I’m joining 3 other fabulous BlogHer bloggers (along with our co-hosts) for this exciting promotion and the key person in the middle of all of this is none other than Ree, The Pioneer Woman herself.
Get this: We will all be GOING TO THE RANCH TO MEET REE ! All of us will be filming a video with her during this 4 month promotion, at 4 different times. I can hardly contain my glee!!! I must have jumped up and down for 1/2 an hour when I got the news that I was chosen for this fun escapade. I’m SO blessed!
Sqqqqqqqqeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Just had to get that out since I’ve been holding this secret in for about a week now.
OK, I’m trying to contain my excitement, but I’ve been a huge fan of Ree’s for almost 3 years now. My episode will film at the end of June, so between now and then you may just have to hear about a million times, how super excited I am about this opportunity. You never know when what you’ve wished for may come true. I gushed about Ree in this post, since I’ve made many of her recipes and jokingly whined that I wish I would get an invitation to the ranch. Wonders never cease! Y’all, I’m going to the ranch!
Pssst, Ree, would you pleeeeeeeease make some of those world-famous cinnamon rolls when my group comes out there??
So, back to the topic at hand:
What is black tie, Southern Style? Have you been invited to a special dress-up fancy-schmancy party lately and what did you wear?
(via Dark Black Dress)
Let’s talk about what to wear on those occasions when we are invited to a very special event. What does black tie mean these days, anyway? Is it an Oscar-worthy floor-length dress? Or will cocktail length work? Does your guy need to wear a tux? I definitely think Black tie has relaxed a bit from what it used to mean, so long or short is probably appropriate. But, you’ve gotta have some bling!
(from Style Frizz)
Unless I was absolutely certain that everyone would be wearing evening gowns, I might think that Black tie these days in the South, just might mean a sparkly top and nice dress pants OR the always popular “little black dress”. Do ya’ll actually own several little black dresses? I think I may have a couple that would qualify. But, I can’t think of the last time we went to an event that was really fancy black-tie. We did dress up last year and go to The Club for an event and I wore a cute top that I found at a yardsale for, I think a big whoppin’ $1, with dressy black pants and hubby wore a coat and tie.
So, what does a special night out for YOU look like? What would you wear? and how would you fix your hair and makeup?
(from Mac makeup)
Nighttime makeup should be richer and deeper and a lot more sultry than daytime, don’t you think? And getting the hair just right is so very important. A girl’s gotta feel good about her hair.
And let’s talk about day-time.
How do you dress when you’re at home? I have to confess, it’s yoga pants and sweatshirts or T’s for me. If I’m not going out, I don’t bother with makeup, but I always wear something on my face when I leave the house, even if I’m going to the gym or running errands. I don’t want to scare anyone I come in contact with. And I usually end up staying in my gym clothes all day, they are just so comfy.
(from Stylehive)
How about you? Talk to me about those dressy special occasions AND your normal day-time attire?
This is the time to interact and leave comments. They will be using some of the comments and ideas in our video sessions, so PLEASE join in! Let’s have some fun discussions on this, as we all figure out just HOW to put it all together.
All the hosts for this special promotion are listed here. I hope you’ll go over and get in on the conversations on their blogs too. There are sure to be some lively discussions:
Episode 1: Sheila from Xiaolin Mama, joined by Sheila will be Loralee from Loralee’s Looney Tunes in the first episode.
Episode 2: Susan at Friday Playdate
Episode 3: Holly at Nothing But Bonfires
Episode 4: Ree at The Pioneer Woman
Episode 5: Rhoda
BlogHer’s Putting It All Together is a new collaborative video series talking about what really works for us, from lifestyle to personal style — and you’re a part of it. We need your best advice, funniest stories, and great photos. We’ll be blogging your great ideas, and featuring some of them in the videos we’re shooting at the ranch of Ree, aka Pioneer Woman. Stay tuned for more details about upcoming topics and special guests!
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How exciting for you Rhoda! I can only imagine how wonderful this opportunity is for you! I do have to admit that I am jealous of your trip to the ranch. WOW! Congratulations on this project!
I guess when it comes to dressing up and going out, I am rather old-fashioned. …..I dress-up for those Black-tie occasions (not that I get to do that very often). That means a tux for Audley and a “black dress” or other appropriate (or stylish) gown for me. We are in the midst of planning our 20 year class reunion, which is to take place in July, and we have made dress black-tie. I’ll be searching like mad for that perfect dress for the next several months, without a doubt!
As for daytime wear, I am partial to warm-up suits in the winter, cropped pants and cute tops (I love a tunic top) in the summer. I spend a lot of time out with the kids since I have one that is in the band and plays basketball, one who takes guitar and plays soccer and another who is year-round soccer, so I do wear make-up all of the time. I don’t feel dressed if I go out without it! I always have my jewelery on as well (Earrings, necklace, ring). It’s a preference that I have had for years. When the other girls in college wore pj’s to 7:30 classes, I was always made-up. That is the way I was raised and I am raising my girls to be the same way
ANyhow, you probably don’t want to hear anymore of my rambling as I have written you a book!
Have a fabulous Day, and once again, CONGRATULATIONS!
Jennifer
First off, congratulations! What a huge honor! I am looking forward to reading all of your (and the other selected bloggers’ posts)!
Second – fashion is my other addiction! I am a believer that I’d rather be over dressed than underdressed so a Black Tie event would be an excuse to pull out one of my nicest little black dresses. More important than anything I would have to say would be that you have to have a pair of elegant shoes! Nice heels can change any old dress into something fabulous.
As for when I am at home – I always do my best to look nicely. I am a big fan of pumps so I generally wear some stylish shoes regardless of what clothes I’m wearing. If I am dressing down in sweats, you can bet I have a cute pair of funky sneakers on!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I can feel your excitement. I am so happy for you. I love Ree too, I was just printing out recipes from your site yesterday. I would love to go to her ranch too, what a treat that would be. I know you are going to tell us all about it…take lots of pics {wink}….
I for one don’t mind hearing about your excitement over and over.
Have a blessed week,
Cindy
Get OUT OF HERE! So exciting for ya’ll!!!!!
As for going out, I agree with you on wearing black. I don’t get out much (wink) but when I do I love to wear a simple black dress with special accessories. You can’t go wrong with a sheath dress, either, in a basic color with pearls and cool earrings. My issue with dressing in Nashville is this lovely inbetween time. It’s “supposed” to be spring now but yesterday it was FREEZING so I wore boots, jeans, and a fun top and necklace out last night with hubby to dinner. Our girls are with the inlaws for 2 nights for spring break.
Around the house on the weekends and at night I am much like you. I swear yoga pants (much nicer than sweats) and a t-shirt. I have some cool Mary Jane type athletic shoes I bought in Asheville at a cool outdoor store that are awesome. They are “dressier” than tennis shoes. In the summer I am all about the khaki shorts, t-shirt, and black sandals or fun colored flip flops!
How wonderful for you! I know you’re thrilled.
I would think dressy black pants, silky tank and sequined or richly embellished jacket of some kind would be what I would wear nowadays. I’m probably a little older than most of your readers (62) and like my arms covered. I also like the line that this outfit gives me. It actually is a variation of my standard outfit. Substitute shirt for jacket, jeans or other casual pants, and cotton tank and there you go. Daytime at home is knit pants or jeans and shirt. I always wear flats not sneakers. I like my sleeves 3/4 rolled and I feel put together in case I need to run out or answer the door. I never wear sweats because I feel one tends to feel sloppy and it spills over to the brain! Lord knows I need all my brain cells up and running! I always put a little light make-up on. We have a small business that is partially based at home, so I feel that I’m in gear that way. I know I feel and function better when I look good. I know I wouldn’t want to see my hubs looking like a slob, so why would i look like one for him?
This is very exciting! I can’t think of a better person to talk about fashion. You always look fabulous! I haven’t been to a fancy even in a long time. Probably the last time was in 07 and it was my cousin’s wedding. The wedding was at a church and the reception was at a fancy country club. I wore a dressy, silky top with black dress pants. On a normal day, I am in jeans, cords or yoga pants. I don’t wear makeup unless I’m going to church or actually OUT somewhere (which doesn’t happen often haha). I decided though the other day that I need to wear makeup more often. I need to look my best all the time. I’m at the point where I’m tired of being single so I need to look good when I’m out. Know what I mean?
Oh Congratulations dear friend!!! How wonderful and what a fun, unique opportunity. Looking forward to seeing it!
Hey Rhoda!
What a ka-winky-dink! I’m working on a project that will be featured on P-Dub’s blog too! And we’re REALLY looking forward to visiting the ranch too…what a great “Guest My Nest” post it will be, huh?
Congrats my friend- so happy for you!
Layla
What a wonderful opportunity for you Rhoda. I am so excited for you. That is awesome!! I don’t go to many black tie events, but would wear a cute black cocktail dress. For day wear, in the winter, I am usually seen in jeans and a sweater/cardigan. In the summer I live in capris. You won’t catch me in shorts with all my spider veins. Love & blessings from NC!
Congratulations!!! This is SUCH awesome news and you are so deserving!!! I can’t wait to hear more! I would be flipping out!!! REE!!!
Good for you!
Lou Cinda L)
Sounds fabulous, Rhoda! Congratulations.
I’m looking forward to every single bit of it!
Enjoy!
Congrats to you. I love it when women have worked hard to make a well-rounded and beautiful blog and get rewarded for it. I read your every day. Coincidentally, I live less than an hour from Pioneer Woman! Welcome to Oklahoma!!!
Rhoda, how exciting! This is a project I look forward to reading all about.
Now I have to tell you, we haven’t done anything black tie since we went on a cruise 10 years ago. I’m fine with that! We are much more comfortable living more casually. When we go out to special dinners and things it’s never quite as dressy as black tie. A new dress and heels makes me happy.
At home I live in jeans in the winter and capris in the summer. I’ve become addicted to What Not to Wear so I defiitely do try to spice it up with cute tops and sweaters, jewelry, etc. I wear makeup every single day no matter what! My eyes don’t feel open without mascara. Love to spritz on a little perfume or yummy smelling lotion too.
Now bring on that great information. Macys is my go to store here in Oklahoma City so I can’t wait what you show us.
Congrats! And how lucky is that to meet Ree! And at her ranch!! I have to ask (and this shows I am NEW to blogging) what is “BlogHer”? Do you have to join it? And if so what are the benefits? In answer to your questions about style. I don’t have a little black dress (haven’t had one since I was 21 and that was a long, long time ago). Even the last two family weddings I went to the majority of folks there were in non-formal wear. Many came in what I would call just nice casual. For everyday activities I dress for comfort now. If it’s not comfortable or doesn’t look nice on me I don’t wear it.
Congratulations! This is such exciting news. I am jealous that you are going to the Ranch, I have wanted to go to one of her cooking sessions.
First off let me say a huge “congratulations” for being chosen and for getting to go to “Ree’s” ranch. I have to admit I’m somewhat jealous over that one!
Now on to what this little southern lady calls “black tie” and how to dress for it. Living in Arkansas all of my life (or the major majority anyway) I have gone to several black tie events over the years. Yes, we do have them here. LOL. For me it’s an occasion to dress up all out. I have the cocktail length and the long black dress. I think the shoes and jewelry are what set them off. You can take a plain little black dress and either dress it up or down depending on the style of shoe and jewelry you wear. Of course what style you choose to wear your hair also has a lot to do with this as well. And don’t forget the wrap, bling up or down on this one.
For everyday wear I must admit (since I work from home) that my everyday wear is either my comfortable pj’s or sweat suits in winter. For summer it’s always a comfortable sun dress and barefoot.
I am officially jealous! I would love to go to Ree’s ranch! Congrats!
Yeah!!!! I am jumping up and down with you . Oh my goodness Rhoda! This is BIG!!!! I am so so so exicited for you and the other bloggers that made it. I feel as though a little piece of me will be going through you. Wow!!!
You deserve every second my sweet friend. I knew you were something special when I started blogging and you took the time to help this poor sap figure everything out. Well you go girl and represent us southern girls….many many hugs and well wishes too. Love ya! Susie
Very excited for you and cannot wait to hear more!! Rhoda, Come and see the latest!!
Karena
Art by Karena
Rhoda, I’m so happy for you! What fun you’ll have! BlogHer and Macy’s couldn’t have picked a better person for this.
I’m a blue jeans girl. I wear jeans nearly every day, except in the hottest days of summer. Jeans and my Dansko clogs.
For evening, I love a dressy top with black pants. It’s hard to beat that combo if you ask me. We almost never do honest-to-goodness “black tie,” but when we do, we go all out. If the invitation specifies black tie, my husband wears his tuxedo and his special-order black bow tie (he’s huge, so he had to order an extra-long tie to be able to get the thing to look right!). And if he’s in a tux, I’m in an evening gown. We usually go to a charity ball once a year, and that’s about it. But we savor it for that one night!
You lucky dog! I can’t believe you get to meet Ree. Have fun! The whole thing sounds like a great opportunity.
Wow, congrats Rhoda! Eat some of those cinnamon rolls for me while you are there
Enjoy the fun project! I’ll be tuning in!
Melissa
This is a really cool program that you are doing with Macy’s. My special event garb is somewhat limited and frankly I buy a lot of it on sale because I just don’t wear it that often. I am going to give Macy’s a shout out because I do get a lot of my eveningwear there and they’ve always had a good selection (not, just for teens and skinny girls, if you know what I mean!). My favorite outfit is a long black Tahari dress (thank you macy’s) and a blue silk jacket I bought in India. It’s a great outfit for these types of occassions.
I didn’t read the above comments, so I could be repeating myself.
But, usually, a short(er) dress is fine for black tie. One can never go wrong with a black dress. Even Target has some nice looking black dresses at very affordable prices. Another great store for affordability is H & M. They always have something and both Target and H & M have famous-label guest designers. And, both have jewelry.
Even if you’re going to wear a black dress you already have – accessorizing is key. Get some knock-out shoes, bold jewelry (like a “bib” necklace), and a gorgeous clutch. You can never go wrong with an outfit like that!
When I know it is time to dress up for a special occasion I “dress up” !! When I put on a nice dress and do my hair and makeup it makes me feel that much better about myself. I hardly ever get to dress up being a stay at home homeschooling mom of 3 who has time and energy to do something like that? Not me for sure!
So I use these special occasions to feel better about myself and actually take the time to do everything and dress extra special. I can admit though I don’t change my make up alot for day vs. evening though. I love wearing dark eyeshadow and the smoky look so thats what I do when I wear make up. My hair is pretty much the same most of the time too because I have it cut in an inverted bob so I don’t have many options.
Congrats to you! How exciting and fun!
As far as black tie, black dress! And it depends on who is hosting as to length.
Rhoda, how absolutely thrilling !!!! Congratulations my friend, I will be following this series and rooting for your success with the other bloggers, how wonderful to mix and mingle with these successful ladies and share in each other’s fantastic ideas !
xoxo
Kate
How exciting, Rhoda.
I am on the go alot, preschool drop-off, errands, MOPS meetings etc. I like to wear jeans, a cute top/sweater, and a fabulous pair of shoes. No matter how fat I get, my shoes will always look amazing.
Congrats , Rhoda!
What a wonderful opportunity. And a fun one.
Looking forward to hearing more about this adventure.
Sweet dreams.
Wow, wow, WOW!!! How exciting! Can you pack me in your suitcase???
I am totally with you – I wear comfy clothes when at home – all the time, even if that means dressing and undressing three times a day. It’s totally worth it.
I do have a little black dress that I bought for Blogher, and I’m really looking for another occasion to use it! Not nearly enough opportunities for such.
Great News, Rhoda! I am sooo happy for you! It sounds like a lot of fun.
I don’t get dressed up much these days with four boys running around my house. But I am partial to black and sleeveless when I do.
At home, you can find me in yoga pants and t-shirts…it’s all about comfort there!
Blessings!
Congratulations!
I don’t get to dress up (whether black tie or what have you) very often so my personal preference is to “go big or go home”, meaning I pull out all the stops. I make sure that my hair is perfect, including a hair accesory if it works with my attire; my makeup is flawless, a beautiful (floor length) gown and pretty accessories (necklace, earrings and don’t forget the handbag). Every woman should feel like the belle of the ball from time to time.
My daily attire is usually jeans, t-shirt, cardigan and flats. If I plan on meeting the girls for coffee then I might punch it up a bit with a bangle and some dangly earrings but usually the more comfortable I can make myself the better my attitude will be, which the innocent bystanders appreciate.
that is amazing – congrats!!
I don’t get the opportunity to dress up often, so when I do I like to go all out. I have a trip to vegas and a labor day weekend wedding coming up this year. For Vegas, I want to get a few sparkly cocktail dresses and I’d love to have a light, flowy floor length gown for the wedding.
For every day, when I’m home I am in sweats and t-shirts all the time. I normally change within 5 minutes of getting home. If I go out for errands, jeans, a sweatshirt, ponytail and little to no make-up. But if I am going to spend time with friends, I go for jeans with a cute top and I do my hair and make-up.
What a great idea for a program. Can’t wait to seeing you be the star of the video! If I am going out on the town, I love wearing a sun dress and cute sandals (In the warmer weather anyway) For just hanging around the house, some comfy cotton pants and tank top is always nice.
Just bought a very formal evening gown for a wedding from Macy’s recently here in NJ. Long and navy blue. I’m going to look for some silver sandals to match.
How exciting for you, Rhoda!
What a great opportunity!
I guess when it comes to dressing up, I do dress for the occasion. Sometimes nice pants, but usually a skirt or dress. I love a pretty dress (that’s just above knee length & not a wrinkly fabric) with some great shoes & a feminine/pretty cardigan or wrap to wear if I’m chilly. I tend to just do one “major” accessory statement (chunky necklace, blingy earrings, or stacked bracelets) & then go more subtle on the other pieces. Definitely a “smoky eye” makeup look & right now I flat-iron my hair.
For an everyday look I am pretty basic. This is my everyday “uniform”: Great jeans & a cute top (again, non-wrinkly) like a rosette embellished scoopneck tee, or a cardigan with a ruffled edge & a tank top. Fun jewelry for sure! Boots, ballet flats, or flip-flops (depending on the outfit/season) rounds it out. I definitely wear makeup whenever I’m out, at least some mascara & lip gloss if nothing else! And my hair is still flat-ironed and sometimes tucked back behind my ears. I feel better when I’m “put together”! And Hubby likes it too!!
Eat some cinnamon rolls for me when you get to visit!
Blessings,
Stacey
So excited for you!!
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Rhoda, not being from the south I am not sure exactly what the ranch and The pioneer woman is. Sorry!! But, with that being said I can tell how thrilled you are and it sounds like a huge big deal to be on such a fun project and you relate so well to people you will be AMAZING!! I look forward to following along and picking up some pointers. I love Fashion and make-up so this is right up my ally. Congratulations, it sounds as if God is taking you on another wonderful journey my friend.
The only time I would dress in formal attire is for a wedding or on a cruise. I always wear cocktail length, long looks too matronlly for me. The dress will be simple but with color and some great statement jewelry. Hair always soft and maybe a little fluffier,make-up more dramatic. I also bought an amazing black tuxedo pant suit that is timeless and it a Wow with just great earrings and a simple heel.
Around the house yoga pants and polo’s. Out I wear jeans and a cute top and a hoodie or jacket depending on weather. Summer it is crop pants even thought I know I am too short for them , it is just too hot not to wear them. I actually wear skirts, tshirts and flip flops more than anything. I need to be as tall and lean as you to wear the crop pants. Oh I am just getting excited writing this. This is going to be so fun. You go Girl!! Congrats!!!!!! Kathysue
Congratulations on such a wonderful opportunity! I’m looking forward to seeing how it works!
And on to fashion talk…I can’t say that I go to too many fancy events, but I think the LBD (little black dress) is appropriate no matter what the occasion is. I like to add a chunky gold bracelet or earrings to make it more fun.
At home, I change into “comfy clothes” the minute I step in the house. It’s usually cotton pants/shorts and a t-shirt. I’m trying to dress it up a little with cuter pajamas lately : )
Also wanted to let you know I gave you a blog award because you’re so amazing : ) http://tinyurl.com/ygjre6o
How exciting for you to be attending a black tie event and to go to the ranch for a visit.
Ahhh……black tie, what does it mean to me? Well, I’m in the Northeast and have attended a few black tie “corporate” events, which always means long gown for me and tux for DH. We also like to cruise, and attend the “formal nights” by dressing up in either a long dress or a fancy cocktail dress (me), a tux or dark suit (DH). We try to coordinate my dress w/ his tie
After watching the Oscar’s I’m planning a one shoulder gown for an upcoming cruise to the Mediterranean. Look at magazines and figure out what “your” style is. There really is no right or wrong about what to wear, but genreally “black tie” means more formal than any other type of event.
I think it’s great that you’ll have a chance to mix/mingle with others and to express your creative outlet via your clothing and how you outfit yourself! What fun!!!
Hair and make-up: pull out all the stops! Go for a mani and a pedi…..go for the glam! Go to Nordstroms or Sephora for a make-up “make-over” (no obligation to buy!)
You’re smart, saavy and have a cute figure….go for it and let your inner-self glow!
You lucky thing, getting to meet The Pioneer Woman herself! Wow! Congratulations are in order.
I almost had to make an unexpected stop at the ladies room for a wee bit (pun intended) of unexpected tinkle time due to your BEYOND EXCITING NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Macy’s and you AND Pioneer Woman?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Please, please, please promise that you ABSOLUTELY WILL TAKE A GAZILLION PHOTOS OF YOUR TIME ON THE RANCH AND GET A CLOSE UP OF MARLBORO MAN’S….Ummm….well, a close up of his…. chaps…yes, his “CHAPS.” (I’m a nice Christian woman and am trying to keep this PG)
Now on to the fashion questions.
DICHOTOMY.
DUALITY.
SPLIT-PERSONALITY as in “Lana’s Gone All Cybil” or Sibyl or however you spell that movie schizophrenic woman’s name)
To me, there seems to be this either or mentality with my dressing.
You mentioned black-tie and you talked about what I wear at home.
The two couldn’t be any more different.
Having been married to a Naval Officer and also having been a professional singer for a long time, there were many occasions for me to go black-tie.
But you’re right; black tie can mean myriad things in the modern world, not just a floor-length ball gown.
I’ve worn everything from full on sparkle and gleam with a real diva dress to a wonderfully elegant top with a touch of the spangle combined with some refined, yet comfortable, black palazzo pants. My favorite ensemble, however, and I swear I am not doing a shameless Macy’s plug here, but it is the doggone truth…was a very simple (and still affordable) Ralph Lauren “LBD” with a shimmery black and white and silver jacket over it. I’ve worn that ensemble to weddings, to sing at public appearances and have worn the LBD sans the glimmering shine with a more straightforward, almost businessesque black jacket to a funeral.
But you know what? One of the AMAZING things about being a woman in the SOUTH is that we embrace color! I love that. I wish that everyone throughout the US had more of an open mind (and I think we’re seeing that as there seems to be a dissolution of preconceived ideas of what “black tie formal” means and “season codes” and even what defines elegant attire–it does NOT always have to be black. After years working in New York with a plethora of basic black on every street corner, there now seems to be a diversifying, maybe not a Crayola Big Box of a Gazillion Colors explosion, but certainly an embracing of myriad colors, from chocolate brown, to navy to accents of animal print, fuschia, lime green and the new “basic” of neutrals in abundance. Being a “Fall,” I so appreciate these warm neutrals and hints of color that really allow me to “glow.”
But for all this talk of my black tie experience…well, the reality is that I am currently, for the most part (I do still occasionally sing and/or direct a musical or?!?!!) a stay at home mother of 3 who homeschools, drives kids to a profusion of activities, has a garden, a house with multiple bathrooms to clean and only me to do it, goes to church and…
So my normal weekday attire is my husband’s t-shirt that I slept in the night before along with workout/athletic pants of some sort.
Sad, but true.
Being the creative type, my aesthetic self SCREAMS at this death of my artistic and beautiful personality succumbing to the realities of a banal wardrobe, simply due to the need for comfort, stretchability….ease getting groceries from Costco in and out of a Suburban…picking up toddlers…..reaching to get to the back of the toilet…
So much of my daily wear is defined by pragmatics.
Oh, how I wish it was different.
While more basic non-workout clothes have some touches of Spandex (even jeans are getting there) it is sooooo difficult to find truly comfortable AND concurrently elegant/playful/fun/artistic clothes that are STILL WELL MADE at a price point that I find tolerable.
I long for style every single day, for pieces that have a hint of trend and still the golden touch of timeless classic appeal. I long for clothes Monday through Friday that are both stretchy and truly comfortable, but that have a tiny bit of “flair” and originality, colors that are inspiring, lines that are still somewhat sleek and form-fitting, looks that say “look at Lana, see her amazing heart, her artistic side, her giving to her church, family and community, look at her sense of humor and her love of thrifting AND antiquing, of cutting coupons AND of splurging on a trip to Europe of….well….clothes that yell at the top of their lungs, “THIS IS ME AND I AM AN AMAZING WIFE AND MOTHER AND HUMAN BEING AND I AM BEAUTIFUL AND ARTISTIC, TOO!!!!”
Oh, and they have to make my thighs look smaller, my butt look higher and still be comfortable!
See my dilemma? See why I go from style maven, fashion diva when wearing my black tie pieces to SLOPPY AND SHLEPPY AND DOWNRIGHT DEPRESSING when I switch to my “every day wear?”
Well, you asked….and I answered, in my Lana-tells-it-like-it-is and sometimes my husband wishes I had more of an edit between my mind and my mouth/typing fingers way.
Rhoda, I always love to visit you. You are such a hero to me and all jokes aside, I am THRILLED for you to have such an honor.
You deserve it! I will keep you in my prayers as you journey forth to “The Ranch.”
But, please, don’t forget to get a good photo of Marlboro Man’s “chaps.”
Love, hugs and turquoise joy,
Lana
PS Thanks so much for always stopping by and leaving a wonderful comment. I know I will never have the gazillion followers you do, and yet you are so kind to come visit little ol’ me! It truly makes my day. Sometimes my whole week!
You are an immense blessing to all of us!!!
CONGRATULATIONS! Whooh Hoo! How awesome! You are going to “THE RANCH!” What a wonderful experience!
FIRST OF ALL… I LOVE CLOTHES AND MAKE UP!
I go to “PROM” every year. HA HA I know you are laughing right now but I really do! My husband is a high school teacher. We have chaperoned for the last 27 years. I usually wear a black dress or whatever the color is of the season. Strappy sandals. I will have a manicure and a pedicure. My makeup will be fresh and a bit more “night time.” My husband will wear a black suit and black tie.
I think evening gowns should be saved for a very formal evening. ( Cocktail dresses I think look more “stylish.” I would wear a halter type to a High School reunion. However some High School reunions up here in the North are getting away from the Fancy Shmancy reunions…
I work full time and I wear trendy clothes and love being up to date. On the weekends I will either wear yoga pants or jeans. I always wear makeup out. If my husband and I are going out for the evening… I will wear stylish jeans, black jeans, or khakis and I will have heels on. In the summer I’ll wear capris but my sandals will have a heel. I am getting excited to wear some little silky tops or halters with a pair of white capris and sit out on a Patio Bar for dinner.
Once again… Congrats! You go girl!~~ Nancy from OHIO
Rhoda,
Congratulations, I’m so happy for you to have this wonderful opportunity! I will be looking forward to seeing your video. I’m sure you will do a fabulous job. It sounds like fun.
I had a lot of experience with evening wear, because I lived in Dubai for 5 years. My husband and I attended several black tie events during that time. I bought a long gown each summer when I visited the states to take back with me. However, since I was in Dubai I would often have something whipped up at one of the tailors. There were amazing fabrics to choose from in the Souks (old markets) and my favorite one was called Cosmos Lane. It was huge about 10 city blocks filled with fabric store after fabric store. You would show the tailor a picture from a magazine of the dress you wanted and he would measure you then make it up in a couple of days. It was usually less expensive to have something made up at the tailor’s then buy off the rack and the tailor’s workmanship was top notice. We usually wore evening gowns since that was the norm on that side of the world. I opted for colorful fabrics from India or Thailand since they were so beautiful.
Cathy
since I am a single person now and retired I don’t have any fancy, smancy clothes any more and for everyday it is jeans/sweat pants or (shorts in summer) with sweat shirts or t-shirts. Retirees should be entitles to being comfortable after dressing for work for over 35 years.
Oh Rhoda, I am SO excited for you! Congratulations!
Hi Rhoda,
Congrats on the exciting news! That’s wonderful! I think it’s great that you get to meet someone you’ve admired, for real, up close and personal! I know you’ll share all the good stuff with us.
Now, about dressing…funny you should ask because I was faced with that dilema just this weekend. There’s no short way to answer that, unfortunately! Here’s what I know about myself, and my style:
This weekend we went out to dinner at a pretty nice little place, just the two of us to kick off our anniversary weekend. I wasn’t sure what to wear. It’s pretty casual out here in California. So, I bought these really great, high, strappy, platform-y, nifty heels to wear with a black pencil skirt and silk blouse, long multi-strands of pearls and chains for the finishing touch. I layered a beaded vintage sweater over the blouse because it’s cold here at night. I thought I looked pretty good. My girls (20 and 13) said I “looked hot”. Okay.. I did look kinda hot….but, the truth is I felt uncomfortable and the shoes were silly. They are too high, a bit difficult to walk in, and my feet were frozen, even in black tights. They are so fashionable, but not made to walk in, I guess! And, I just didn’t feel like myself.
I spend almost every day in jeans and sweaters, or dressy tee–shirts. I don’t wear “mom-jeans”, the ones I wear are new, updated, not too low-slung styles. I love my boots and have 6 different pairs to choose from. I also have lots of different jackets to wear over long or short-sleeved knits and tee shirts. In the warmer weather I wear skirts, tees, layering cardigans, with sandal or flats of some sort. I love my jean-capris, even though technically my legs are probably too short ( I’m 5′5″) to wear them. I like the look of white jeans with sandals and a cute little top. Very Jackie O. Not that I look anything near as good, but a girl can dream….
I rarely leave the house without some makeup (mascara, cover-up, lipstick) I always wash and blowdry my longish hair. I never skipped a day when my girls were babies, either. I feel better about myself when I’m pulled together somewhat. I feel just as comfortable, even more so, when I’m dressed and wearing shoes, than when I’m in my sweats, with no makeup and my hair in a pony tail. I feel like I can accomplish more, and that I look better doing it. I’m just pulled together more, not overdone, but I try to look presentable!
I figured out during our dinner that, although I love clothes and staying current, I was most comfortable in “dressy” clothes that are closer to what I wear everyday. Next time I will stick with a simpler getup, in the shoe department anyway! I will probably pass those strappy sandals on to my 20 year old, we wear the same size. I will wear something a bit less form-fitting, because my form ain’t exactly what I’d like it to be right now, though I work out every day. I am trying to get rid of some of this extra “where did that come from?” weight . So, I am still searching for that “perfect little black dress” that everyone says I should have, though I don’t have many occasions to wear it. I had found one I thought was close to perfect, took it home, tried it on in front of my mirror, walked around in it for 2 minutes, and then returned it. Because I realized that I would probably never feel comfortable owning something that can only be worn one way, was sleeveless, hugged my body a little too closely, and I didn’t really need. I’m a “separates girl”, always will be, I guess! So, I hope that answer your question, (plus a bunch more info that you probably didn’t need!) Thanks for asking, and have fun with the Macy’s promo. I ‘m looking forward to hearing more.
Take care, Rhoda. Have a great week!
XO
Heidi – Heart and Home
Rhoda, how totally EXCITING IS THAT! Your post just oooozes with happiness and I’m so happy for you. I think I’d give my left pinkie toe to go to PW’s ranch! AND DANG that girl makes GREAT GRUB! LOL I’m so excited for you. Congratulations!
Rhoda, Congratulations! You are perfect for this opportunity! We all come to you for advice and inspiration! Have fun on the ranch!
Pam
Rhoda, I agree that dress codes and black tie have probably relaxed a lot over the years. I still probably tend to overdress every where I go. I just started back to work and I can feel some people looking at me in my heels and suits or separates. I have new clothes from great stores but it seems where I work most people are extremely relaxed in their dress. Even on casual Fridays I wear cute shoes with my jeans and a jacket to pull it all together. I just can’t go sloppy looking. It doesn’t feel right to me. For a black tie event, I, too, would want to know if evening gowns are in order. And if so, I would go all out as much as possible wtihout breaking the bank. I love a bargain as much as you do, girlfriend! And there are ways to dress to the nines and still have some green in your wallet. I think you can look very shiek (chic?) in a very simple black dress — long or short. Sith the right hair, makeup and accessories and really rock the look. The most important thing for me other than comfort is for me to wear the clothes and not for the clothes to wear or overpower me. If you aren’t comfortable in your clothing, it’s going to show. We have to find our own style and be comfortable in it and in our skin as well. That’s when we shine. Oh, and I wear the same thing at home as you do. Love my black yoga pants and colorful and comfy tops and flip flops too. And I guess we southern girls have to put on our faces before going out the door. I never go out without my “face” either — even if it is just a simple and natural look.
I so miss reading you daily but I try to catch up one day during the week or weekend. So thrilled for you and the others regarding Macy’s and having the opportuniy ot visiting P-Dub and the ranch. Wish I could go with you!!! I’ve been dreaming of visitng the ranch too. I know my oldest daughter would love to go as well. Now that I’m working again, I’m not cooking. But my oldest daughter is apparently making everything in sight from PDub’s cookbook that we stood in line to have her sign when she was here in Dallas. We’re both members at her Tasty Kitchen site too. So happy for you, Rhoda!
I hate to dress up! Whenever I have to, I can’t wait to get home and get comfy. The best I ever looked was at my son’s wedding. I loved my dress and I got my hair and makeup done. After a few redos, I didn’t look quite like the geisha girl! I did love the fake eyelashes, but I can’t do them myself. I’m afraid I’ll glue my eyes shut! Just give me blue jeans any day!
Holy cow! How exciting is that?!!!! I love Ree and her cookbook is the greatest! I wouldn’t be able to sleep until it’s over with! Congratulations – I know you will be in the clouds with joy when you visit Ree!
Deborah in NC
umm WOW!!! You must be elated. This is big news!
Whatever you decide, you will look classy and beautiful.
((((((((Rhoda))))))))))
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU.
Love,
Kim
Congratulations Rhoda, I’m thrilled for you.
I see the common thread is black …..as I get older I think classic. You can always dress up a basic outfit with great shoes and jewelry. Being in my 50s it’s sometimes hard to find age appropriate clothes. Don’t want to appear frumpy or like I’m trying to look younger in teen age fashions. I love a touch of color, like a bright scarf and a sassy sexy shoe.
Home clothes are all about comfort. Jeans and capris mostly and minimal makeup.
Good luck! I’d sure love to visit Ree’s ranch too!
Wow!!!!! What an exciting announcement! I am so jealous! I love all her photography tips and those recipes….yummmm!!!! I just came across your blog from Heart and Home and so glad I did! I am going to be your newest follower!
We live in Charleston and our neighbors have lots of parties and eating downtown Charleston seems to go “dressier”. All it means there is a super cute, sassy top with black pants or even jeans! Gotta have sweet shoes and accessories to go with it!
At home, I wear workout clothes. They are comfy. I will wear them out or put on a pair of jeans with minimal makeup in the summer (as I am tanned!) and some makeup in winter so I don’t scare the locals!
Have a wonderful St. Patrick’s Day!
You almost made me pee my pants….and I hear you about it being easier these days LOL
CONGRATS Rhoda…. I have not been to Ree’s site, I do remember your posts about her….will def. check her out
All the best,
Kathy
I would be screaming with JOY too if I was going to get to visit with Ree on the Ranch. You are ONE lucky girl!!! And you can tell us if Marlboro Man is as cute in person as he is in all the photos!! LUCKY Girl….is all I can say! I’m jealous!!
For us here is southern California…it’s all about comfort! Hanging around the house I will wear shorts and a T-shirt usually or jeans and a T-shirt in winter. For a Black tie even…a little black dress will do as will a fancy/sparkly blouse with a great pair of pants and cute sparkly shoes.
Congratulations Rhoda! I’m happy for you…you give us girls who aren’t so handy some hope to do a project ourselves. My next project is spray painting my patio furniture….I bought some paint. I’ll let you know how it comes out.
You are such a lucky girl!!! Connie
This just can’t be beat. Wow, how great that you get to do this. OMG I would love to go to OK and see the ranch and Ree and family. Take a pic of MM.
The last black-tie event I went to was a charity benefit for my fiance’s job in October. I actually did go to Macy’s and found a great little black dress (just below the knee length) from Calvin Klein and it was on sale! I still love this dress and it’s my go-to look when I need something quick/fancy/comfy to wear. When I’m at home on the weekends, I usually wear skinny jeans and cute blousy top…
Ashley
http://HoneysuckleChic.com
One of my clients has a black tie gala each year. I usually wear a stepped up cocktail dress but that’s because floor length gowns aren’t really “me.” This year I got a great deal on a perfect and versatile LBD from Lot 8 (Chloe Dao’s boutique). My husband purchased his tux a few years ago, so he wears that every year. Even though I wore a black dress, we love colorful evening gowns in Houston.
Day to day I wear skirts or dresses, no hose, and heels. Unless I’m meeting with a client, then I get a bit more dressed up.
I would love to visit the ranch, especially with those other women. Awesome. And, I bet you’ll get to eat cinnamon rolls!!
the last dressy/black tie night out for me was to the Houston Ballet with hubby and some friends about a year ago. My outfit list looked like this:
1. GIRDLE
2. SPANX (had just had baby #3)
3. Satiny beaded and embroidered asymetrical hem, spaghetti strapped dress in a heavenly shade of deep teal.
4. Heeled, strappy sandals and a clutch in bronzed gold
5. A warm gold toned paisley patterned pashmina shawl.
6. Minimal jewelry since my dress was beaded.
7. BIG hair (Southern thing).
8. Smoky eyes, kept other makeup natural looking.
9. Spray Tan (it was the dead of winter).
10. freshly whitened teeth at home).
I looked forward to that night for a month, and when it arrived…I looked GREAT! Even with “all” the extra baby weight
At home, it’s nearly year-round tanks and tees paired with shorts or capris and flipflops. In the winter, long sleeved tees with jeans and slippers. And even at home, I try to wear at least one pretty piece of jewelry and some lipgloss…if nothing else, I put it on right before hubby gets home in the afternoon.
the last black tie event i went to was my cousins sweet 16 party. It was so great to see everyone all dressed up and the candle ceremony was beautiful! I am looking forward to my best friends wedding in the spring as well.
Key for me when dressing up for an evening event is eye makeup. Never been a blush or lipstick girl. A little MAC or L’Oreal eyeshadow in a color that “pops” with some nude lip gloss and mascara makes me feel great. Of course, it helps putting on the long gorgeous gown..but eye makeup is something I couldn’t go without. Fun program! You are so lucky to go to Ree’s Ranch. I’ll be watching the series closely.
Can’t wait to hear about your tie at the ranch!
I live in the south and go to 1 or 2 black tie events a year. The men who own tuxes always wear them – the rest just wear black suits. I usually wear a long dress (I’ve got a half dozen or so) but the women wear either long, dressy short or dressy pants with “fancy” tops.
At home just around the house I usually wear my workout pants and a sweater in the summer or shorts and a t-shirt in the summer.
I try to look nice whenever I leave the house though
Congrats!!! How much fun!!!
I’m from the old school of thought that black tie is tuxes for men and floor-length gowns for women….but then again, I LOVE dressing up!
Basic black with glamorous accessories for me and a black suit with a dark tie for my husband would constitute “black tie”. We rarely have a need for super dress up clothes so we try to keep it attractive, but affordable too.
I’ve never been invited to a black tie affair so I really can’t comment on that. But I’ve found that I can still “dress up” without dressing up (if you catch my drift
by pairing an ultra-feminine blouse and catchy accessories with plain ol’ jeans. Yep. Try it. You’ll turn heads.
How awesome! You must be psyched.
I think black tie means floor-length dress/tux. And I want that dress that Hilary Swank is wearing.
I dont get dressed when I am at home. I dont really dress up much unless when I am going to a formal even. I am a t-shirt and jeans type of girl. For formal events I wear a cute outfit, usually a dress, and purse and shoes
When I’m home, I’m in my underwear. I know it is crazy but I usually start to change clothes but get stuck in the process. A kid needs my attention RIGHT NOW or my husband needs an aspirin RIGHT NOW. My children are just like me. If you come to our house around 6:30 pm on a weeknight, every person you see will be in underwear only.
We like comfort.
I am always casual. I like jeans and a t-shirt no matter what. In a cute since of course. That is just me.
At night I like regular pajamas or undies;-)
jeanette_huston@yahoo.com
This is so exciting for you…Congratulations, girl!
I never go to black tie events, but it would be fun and I would sport a black dress and definitely some bling to accessorize and cute shoes for sure. Black tux or suit for hubby (Poor things, they are kind of boring) I love being a girl! Lol ;D
Yoga pants, sweats or jeans …depends on weather really. I always fix hair and make-up because you never know what a day may bring. I like to be prepared, girl!
I heart your blog, MG