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How We Cleaned Out & Prepped to Sell Our Parents’ House

January 9, 2022 By Rhoda 41 Comments

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Today I’m sharing all about the process of cleaning out and prepping our parents’ house to sell after they moved to assisted living/memory care. There’s a lot that goes into moving parents out of their long time home of 50 years and I figured our experience might help others who are going through the same thing. We learned as we went along, asking questions of friends, and learning how to clean out a house, selling the contents, and getting the house ready to sell on the real estate market. Hope you enjoy this share!

Moving Our Parents

We moved our parents on October 1st and as I shared before, my dad had no idea that this day would be the last time he would see their house. There was no way around that unfortunately, as his reasoning skills did not allow him to logically reason out the process of them moving and giving up their home. Mom was more than ready to move and it was definitely the best thing we could have done before things got worse at home for them both. Dad’s memory was such that he didn’t need to be driving anymore and we had taken away his car keys in July, which didn’t go over very well. He got angry with us for taking things away from him and that wasn’t going to get any better.

So after mom said it was time to move, I began the process of finding them a new home. We settled on Dogwood Forest in Acworth, 5 minutes from my house and I felt at peace over this decision. It has turned out to be the best thing for them. You can read about that moving process in these posts. They might be helpful for any of you who are taking care of aging parents and need to know when the right time to move might be. There is no perfect time, but I’ve always heard move them before it’s too late, rather than be forced to move in a hurry. We are so glad we took the cue from mom and moved them when we did:

The Time Has Come

The Move

One Month Post Move

7 Weeks after Move

Decide What Furniture Will Fit in the New Space

That was something we looked at by measuring and really thinking about the new apartment and how much we could fit in there. It was definitely going to be major downsizing, there wasn’t even room for a sofa in the new living room, so we measured carefully and chose their favorite things to take with them.

We ended up with their 2 recliners with a table and lamp in the middle, an extra chair in there and we shopped for a piece to hold the TV, A bookcase also fit the space. In the bedroom, we took their queen size bed, a nightstand and lamp, the dresser which ended up in the large closet, minus the mirror, a small chair in there. In the bathroom we took a large cabinet that was on the back porch for extra storage. There was room for the settee and swivel outdoor chair as well as the rocking chair for the balcony off the room. That was it, so we knew up front what we would take on moving day, along with their clothes, personal items, and everything we could think of to take to make them comfortable. Of course, over the course of the next month, mom thought of many things she wanted me to bring to her so I did that every week until we got to the end of the list. That’s normal for them to not know exactly what they want to take and as more things came to mind, we took them to her.

Sell the Contents of the House

After everything was taken to mom that she wanted, we knew everything else would be sold. We waited until Thanksgiving weekend to get to the final part of emptying the house. I had started after they moved to list the bigger things, mostly furniture on Facebook Marketplace. That’s a great way to get rid of stuff and sell it for a fair price. So over the course of about 6 weeks, I sold a lot of the furniture on Facebook and emptied out the house of the bigger things.

There was plenty left though and that was a big job to finish the cleanout. When my sister and BIL were home for Thanksgiving, we dove in full force to continue emptying the house so that we could get the house on the market to sell as soon as possible. Mom was ready by then to start the sales process and let the house go. It was a relief to her to get the house sold and not have all the upkeep to think about, since it was all on her shoulders. Dad had gotten to the point that he couldn’t take care of the house, the only thing he did was to continue to mow the grass with his riding lawn mower, but we knew that couldn’t last forever. He was not able to take care of maintaining the house any longer and mom had to handle any issues with the house.

Emptying out the Contents of the House: A Moving Sale

After most of the bigger things were sold, that left the rest of the contents. This was the hard part. My sister and I went through all the drawers in the bedroom furniture and as those things were sold all the contents were strewn all over the floor for us to sort through and look over. We saved all mom’s photo albums and family pictures and she has most of those in her new apartment. It really is a challenge to go through your parents’ things because what was important to them was not necessarily important to us, so there was very little that we kept for ourselves. Lauren, however had a big stack of things that were hers since she practically grew up in that house too. She’s a sentimental gal and kept some of mom’s kitchen things too. She had a lot to go through since she had left so much there after she got married and moved away.

Those things were sorted out and given to who wanted them, including a few things who went to a church friend. The rest of the contents were up for sale and we had a big moving sale on the Saturday after Thanksgiving. Our plan was to have the sale on Saturday, and then advertise a giveaway day on Sunday. On Monday, I scheduled a junk hauler to come and haul the rest away.

That ended up being a really good plan and it worked out great. We did sell a lot of the contents the first day, we gave good prices and it was a good day. We made enough money out of the sale of the contents to pay for the hunk haulers and to get the house cleaned with money left over.

The free giveaway was also a success and we were happy to let people come and take things away, it was less that the junk haulers had to take away. So that was a good day as more and more things went out the door lessening the load somewhat.

All of these things were sold on Facebook Marketplace and that plan worked out great.

Dad had two tillers which we sold. One went to the neighbor and then the older tiller sold a few weeks later.

The utility room was packed to the gills the first day we started. It was a daunting task to go through this space, with all the tools, nails and screws plus misc. junk. Men really liked this sale with all the tools that we had for sale so that worked out well. This shot is after the sale day and then people hauled away more, but this room still had junk to haul out too.

Call the Junk Haulers

On Monday, the junk haulers showed up as scheduled. We had hoped that one truck load would be enough, but it ended up taking 2. They had to come back the second day to empty out the garage and outbuilding, so it was a long process to get rid of the rest. We used Stand Up Guys Junk Removal and they did a great job.

Cost: $575 per truckload so $1150 total

If you’re peering in the truck and see that sewing machine, it was no longer working. No one wanted to buy it, so we ended up scrapping it. I don’t think the thriftstore would have taken it. Her working sewing machine sold right away.

Hauling the junk was tiring for sure and my sister and I along with Bruce was there helping too. With 50 years of accumulation, you can imagine all that was there. It was a relief at the end of the first day to see the empty house. There were many things that were just too good to throw away, so I grabbed all of the things I thought were still valuable and took them to the local thriftstore up the street. I made at least 6 trips up there hauling anything that was left that was valuable, including the old blue sofa which no one wanted. I couldn’t bear to see anything decent be hauled away.

Clean the House

After the house was emptied, it was time to get it cleaned. I didn’t have the energy to do that myself after all we’ve been through, so I hired it out at $300 to get a thorough cleaning. She did a great job and got it spic and span clean, ready to put on the market. That was a relief too, to see the house clean and ready to sell.

Sell the House

I took a few shots to show you all. So many of you have followed our journey all these years and I have taken you in this kitchen so many times. Mom cooked in this kitchen for 50 years and it definitely has a lot of memories. No one took the window coverings, so I just left those up. The rest of the windows got cleared out and doing that let in so much more light.

The house went on the market on a Friday, with showings all weekend long. We ended up with several contracts and chose one that was really strong, over asking price and not many contingencies. We did have to give back a little for repairs and we had to do a termite treatment to the garage, but that was all we had to do, so I’m happy with how that turned out. Selling in a brisk market like this is getting them top dollar for their house. All the proceeds for everything sold, including the house will help to keep them in assisted living for years to come if needed.

They also had 2 vehicles, a Nissan Altima and a Toyota truck. I’m keeping the truck and I sold the car after Thanksgiving to a nice young man in the military. It was nice to see it go to a good home, the car had 60K miles on it and was a 2008, so buying a car from an elderly couple is a good thing.

Now Mark and I have both our dad’s trucks and have to figure out what we’re going to do. We don’t need 4 vehicles for the two of us, so I’m not sure how we are going to solve that one, but neither one of us could bear to let our dad’s trucks go.

I really hope the family that moves in here will enjoy it and make it their own. A lot of life has been lived in this house and it was a haven for mom and dad for all those years. I was 15 when we moved in this house and we lived in the house next door first for about 9 years. Dad built both of those houses.

The den where they spent so much time. That heater in the corner is one of dad’s additions.

Their bedroom all empty now.

The living room upstairs in this split foyer house. There are 3 bedrooms and a bathroom up here.

And here’s the little porch that I did a makeover on when I lived with them. I had fun making over this porch when I lived with them for a year and 1/2. It was a great porch to enjoy for many years and now this furniture is on mom’s balcony. I was going to link the post but somehow it has disappeared.

So now the house closes in a little over a week and that will close the house chapter. I’m so glad we are at this point. It’s an exhausting process to move parents and get them settled in an assisted living, but we know it was the absolute best thing for them.

I hope this post is helpful for anyone else on this path with your loved ones. There may be books out there to help with this process, but we just figured it out as we went along and things worked out for us. Mom and dad are settled in and content in their new home and I don’t have to worry about them nearly as much. I’m 5 minutes away which gives me much peace of mind. Elderly parents are a blessing and we must do all we can to help them in their final years of life. Mom and dad have done so much for me (and all of their girls) over the years, this is what I can do for them and I’m happy to do it. This is a journey that every family will deal with at some point, so I’m sure you can relate if you’ve been through it or you can look ahead to what’s coming if you’re not there yet.

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  1. Juliet says

    January 10, 2022 at 9:23 pm

    How fortunate you are to have such wonderful parents, and they to have you. I really appreciate you sharing this difficult journey. It is helpful and comforting to others dealing with similar situations. I remember going through this process over 20 years ago with my mom’s house. She was quite young. Only 64. And had done so much to get her affairs including her house in order. Even so it took my sister and I four weekends to clear the house and get it on the market. Like you many things that we’re important to her we’re not things my sister or I wanted … but we each held onto many sentimental items. It was hard and I remember it so clearly 20+ years later. My father recently moved to assisted living but his wife’s family handled cleaning out their very full home. Anyway, I’m glad this process is behind you and your parents nicely settled in a comfortable new home. You handled this with admirable courage, love and dignity. Bless you, Rhoda. xo

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    • Rhoda says

      January 10, 2022 at 9:32 pm

      Thank you, Juliet, you lost your mom so young, I can’t even imagine. Everyone has a different story, but all our stories shared make a difference.

  2. Carol S. says

    January 10, 2022 at 10:28 pm

    Great job Rhoda and family. I’ve enjoyed seeing your stories and meals in that home. Now new memories in their new home. My dads in assisted living at 86 and the vivid years have been a challenge for all ages. Congrats!!

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  3. Suzette says

    January 10, 2022 at 11:57 pm

    Thanks for sharing this process with your mom and dad/selling their home.
    I’ve really enjoyed all of your blogs with your parents.
    They remind me so much of my grandparents that are gone now.
    Blessings

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  4. Elizabeth says

    January 12, 2022 at 11:59 pm

    Thank you for providing such great and loving detail of the process you went through. I will be doing the same for my widowed father soon. After clearing out all the clutter, I have wondered if he would get a higher sell amount for some cosmetic updates (paint, replacing worn out flooring, removing outdated window coverings, etc.) What are your thoughts on this and do you think it’s worth the time and expense?

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    • Rhoda says

      January 13, 2022 at 10:41 am

      Hi, Elizabeth, thank you for stopping by. We didn’t think it was worth it to update anything at our parents house. It was never updated very much from the original time it was built and with the market as strong as it is, we just sold it as is. Made it a lot easier on us for sure. If your real estate market is strong, I don’t think it matters. Most people want to do their own renovations.

    • C. Gresham says

      January 23, 2022 at 7:30 pm

      Elizabeth, I totally agree with Rhoda. As someone on the other side of this real estate deal, being the buyer not the seller, recently when I looked at houses, I could envision what I wanted in the space not what I was actually seeing in the home. The best thing is to have things clean, that’s my advice.

  5. Ruth says

    January 13, 2022 at 1:27 pm

    We r dealing with all this as well with our mom’s house and also my aunt’s house. It has been really tough. I had thought u said something about having someone do the estate sale for u but I didn’t read that in ur post. We don’t need the house cleaned as we have already sold it but need to get mama’s things out for sale. It would be nice to have someone that would do that for us. I also want to get rid of my things too and we need to move anyway so hoping to do that soon also. Wishing u the best.

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    • Rhoda says

      January 13, 2022 at 5:08 pm

      Hi, Ruth, we didn’t hire an estate sale company to sell the furnishings, we did it all ourselves, but you can certainly do that too. If it’s a large estate, that might be the easiest thing to do. We didn’t have that much really valuable stuff.

  6. Carolyn @ Our Gilded Abode says

    February 11, 2022 at 1:14 am

    I began reading your blog about the time you decorated their porch and have always enjoyed your posts in which your parents are featured. Followed along as your dad created his gardens and as your mother prepared yummy dishes in her kitchen. Thank you so much for sharing their journey with us. It’s so comforting to know that even though they are no longer in their sweet home, they are settled in nicely and near to you.

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  7. Alba says

    March 26, 2022 at 11:10 am

    Thank you so much for this post! I am an empty nester, and it truly gave the perspective from the children’s point of view. It let me know what my children will do in the future. What a wonderful family you have and I appreciate you taking the time to share such a difficult obligation.

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  8. Linda Hickey says

    December 30, 2022 at 8:13 pm

    Thank you for sharing.

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